This is the spine of the work.

Many of the people I see are capable, responsible adults who look fine from the outside but may sometimes feel worn down, anxious or stuck on the inside. The same patterns keep repeating. Insight alone rarely changes them. Lasting change tends to happen when we work with the body and the story together.

Regulate
We calm and settle the nervous system so the body feels safer.
This draws on somatic awareness, breath, heart-rate variability (including HeartMath when useful), and the body-based and yoga background I bring into the room. When the system is less in threat, it becomes easier to think clearly and to do deeper work.

Rewrite
We look at the scripts, drivers and patterns that keep running in the background.
Transactional Analysis gives us a clear map for this — the life script, the drivers (Be Perfect, Please Others, etc.) and the injunctions that were taken in early and still shape choices. Where it helps, we also use practical cognitive and behavioural tools. The aim is not to force a new story, but to notice what has been writing itself and begin to author something more accurate and useful.

Reconnect
We rebuild contact - with yourself, with others, and with the present moment.
This sits in the humanistic tradition: person-centred relationship, existential awareness of freedom, responsibility and meaning, and Gestalt work with awareness, figure/ground, unfinished business and contact. The emphasis is on what is actually happening here and now, so that old material can be completed rather than only talked about.

How this becomes a session

The relationship comes first. You set the pace. I will not push a technique over what you actually need that week.

We move between top-down work (the story, the patterns, the choices) and bottom-up work (the body and the nervous system). Both are usually needed. When the body is still in threat, a new story is hard to believe. When the old script is still running, the body often stays on alert.

Between sessions, current clients have access to a private Client Library - short practices, videos and reading that support the regulation and awareness work we do in the room.

The aim is simple: a calmer body, a clearer story, and a more authentic connection with yourself and the life you are living.